'Marry in your 20s': Zoho co-founder's message splits the internet into two camps

Zoho co-founder Sridhar Vembu has ignited controversy on social media by urging young entrepreneurs to “marry and have kids in their 20s and not keep postponing it.” In a post on X, he framed this as a “demographic duty to society and their own ancestors,” acknowledging: “I know these notions may sound quaint or old-fashioned but I am sure these ideas will resonate again.”

Vembu’s comments came in response to remarks by entrepreneur Upasana Konidela—vice-chairperson of Apollo Hospitals CSR and spouse of actor Ram Charan—who said that during her interaction with IIT Hyderabad students, “more men raised their hands, than the women!” when asked, “How many of you want to get married?”

Reflecting on her observation, she added: “The women seemed far more career-focused !!!! This is the new – Progressive India. Set your vision. Define your goals. Own your role. And watch yourself become unstoppable.”

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The post triggered a wave of reactions. Some users challenged Vembu’s stance by pointing to economic constraints:

“It’s not a demographic crisis. It’s an economic one. Fix that, and hands will rise on their own.”

Vembu fired back: “But even people who can afford to are not marrying and having kids. That is cultural.”

Others warned that early parenthood could hinder careers—particularly for women. One user argued: “Yes, I would love to have children above all. BUT that alone is not my sole purpose in life.”

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To that, Vembu replied with a broader perspective on success and age.

“Life is not a race. There is plenty of opportunity to excel at any age, and 30 is a new beginning for many people… If I were to look at life as a race, I have failed compared to Mark Zuckerberg. I have to thank my mother for this perspective on life,” he said.

Some voices sided with Vembu. Entrepreneur Kishore Sahasranaman, for instance, said early family life can be a stabilising force.

“Family isn’t distraction; it’s the anchor. Navigating a startup journey is much sustainable when you have that support system built early on," said Sahasranaman.

But sceptics pointed to real risks too. One user questioned: “What do you say to the ones who tried that, had 3 kids by 28 and are now divorced, broke, and watching their less encumbered peers lap them in wealth and impact Mr Vembu?”

Vembu responded by challenging societal norms around age and success: “Let’s assume all that happened by 28. Do you know that Larry Ellison only got started at 31? Entrepreneurs who are older are more likely to succeed? There is plenty of time after 28.”