It has always been easy and convenient for a gay man in a monogamous relationship to dismiss others as plastic and promiscuous, simply because it’s the easiest thing to do
In recent years, infidelity has acquired a subversive cachet that makes old-fashioned monogamy seem safe and repressed. After centuries of being bullied into monogamy, we are now urged to embrace more enlightened open relationships.
The latest conventional wisdom touts the virtues of infidelity as a healthy — even desirable — alternative to old-fashioned monogamy. But whether you choose to swing, cheat or stay faithful, you still can't eat that cake and have it too.