Karisma-Sanjay Kapur's ugly divorce: What happens when Bollywood actresses marry non-actors

The dirty linen-washing on the Kapoors’ doorstep is a sad and sorry indication of how sour celebrity relationships are sometimes allowed to get when the partners in a marriage belong to different worlds. All of this mess with those embarrassing accusations in a legal public domain thrown at the daughter of one of the most illustrious families of the entertainment industry could have been entirely avoided if this horrible mis-match (between Sanjay Kapur and Karisma Kapoor) had not happened. [caption id=“attachment_2597748” align=“alignleft” width=“380”]  Karisma Kapoor and Sanjay Kapur. Getty Images.[/caption] Karisma Kapoor was all set to marry Abhishek Bachchan, the date was set and the wedding cards were all printed and ready to be dispatched when something terrible happened. Something that made Abhishek call off the wedding at that eleventh hour. I wouldn’t like to go into details. But in all fairness Sanjay Kapur is not wrong in saying Karisma, Lolo to friends, married on the rebound. Such a match works only in movies like Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi. In real life, specially when it involves a high-profile family, a marriage done in anger and desperation never works. Mr Kapur has not only accused his wife of marrying him on the rebound, he has also accused her of spending his money. I’ve a question for Mr Kapur. If he knew his wife-to-be was marrying him on the rebound why did he go ahead with the match? May I venture to suggest that very often men outside the entertainment industry marry not as equals but fans. Madhuri Dixit was lucky. But Rekha was not. Her one official marriage to an entrepreneur Mukesh Aggarwal ended with a gruesome suicide. Luckily there was no such tragedy in the Kapur-Kapoor alliance. But what has died is even worse. Kapoor and Kapur have lost mutual respect. Sanjay Kapur’s accusations against his wife in the public domain remind me of the very public exchange of insults between Leander Paes and Rhea Pillai. When Karisma’s angry protective father Randhir Kapoor says the Kapoor family doesn’t need her husbad’s money he’s making himself sound ridiculous. Everyone needs money, Mr Kapoor. The more you have it the more you want. If Karisma had married where she was supposed to, she wouldn’t have needed to face this humiliation. She doesn’t deserve this. A portrait of dignity, Karisma has always been an obedient daughter. Every move that she makes in life is Mama’s calling. So if today Karisma finds her life at the crossroads perhaps her mother has some solutions. Luckily Karisma’s sister Kareena married sensibly, and not because she had a point to prove. Hopefully Karisma will find love again. That, she deserves.