The Guysexual’s Urban Dictionary for Gay Slang

What’s the shelf life of a clearance sale shirt? What’s the expiry date on a Grindr hookup? Do potatoes count as carbs? If you feel like a potato, are you a carb?  Do you need to kick your junk food habits out on the curb (no pun intended)? Are moccasins better than brogues? More importantly, what is a brogue? When you are gay man, you’ll always be full of questions (when you are not full of self-doubt, that is) — but this is 2018, and some questions, while basic, — will always be more important than the others. Take a few of these as an example. Don’t know whether you are a top or a bottom? Do you feel it’s rude (and very inappropriate) when someone asks you whether you are a slave? Have you always wondered why your friends laughed at you when you said you loved vanilla? Are you surprised that people could be that into otters? More importantly, what is an otter? It’s 2018, and it’s time for you to get with the times. Whether you are an out-and-proud gay man or an in-the-closet newbie, your dictionary of gay slang will always be as varied as your little black book of boys. So the next time someone tells you they know ‘just the right twink for your daddy charms,’ here’s a little glossary of gay slang to help you understand what they really mean. Bear: An older, broader hairier man who unlike his namesake, does not need to hibernate. Beefcake: A gay man who spends most of his time at the gym, and the rest of it scooping spoonfuls of protein supplement into his post-workout shakes. BJ: A bl*wjob, or when someone wants to make a bl*wjob sound cool. Bottom: The receptive sexual partner; also known as ‘someone who likes taking it in’. Buns: Butt or when someone wants to be cute about your butt. Chubby Chaser: A gay man who likes his sexual partners just like he likes his pillows – soft and cuddly. C*cksicle: A BJ, again. Or when someone tries to make a bl*wjob sound even cooler, but fails miserably. Cruise: To seek casual gay sex encounters — usually in restrooms, pubs or sometimes, even by the corner streetlight, so that you can regret them the morning after. Cub: A younger version of the Bear, heavier than the Otter. May or may not deal with body issues. Daddy: An older, established man who likes his scotch aged and his boys, young. Daddy Chaser: A gay man who likes his partners older, richer, but not necessarily wiser. Discreet: A man who is either in a relationship or in denial, and wants sex on the side. Dom/Dominant/Master: A gay man who likes to play ‘Who’s the boss?’ in bed. Sexual toys may or may not be involved. Fagg*t: A rude thing to call a gay person. Fairy: Another rude thing to call a gay person. Hershey Highway: When someone wants to make anal sex sound more desirable. Iron Closet: A gay man who is in such deep denial of his sexuality, he might never step out of the closet. Kinky: Anything that is not Vanilla sexually, but peach apricot with hazelnuts. Looking for Networking: A man who travels a lot and is on the lookout for vacation flings. He won’t ever call you back. NSA: No-strings-attached casual sex, that doesn’t involve feelings or goodbye messages. Otter: A thinner, younger version of the Bear. Has nothing to do with the animal. Power bottom: A bottom that acts like he’s a top. Poz: An out-and-proud HIV Positive man who’s doing what a lot of men out there are not — telling us about his status. Slam: When someone wants to snort MDMA off your belly button. Sub/Submissive/Slave: A gay man who likes being bossed around in bed. (Not to be confused with the derogatory term used during the American pre-Civil Rights era.) The Closet: A place where you keep all your ridiculously expensive clothes, your snug woolens, and yourself, when you are not out to the world. In other words, a gay man who has not told anyone he’s gay. Tonsil Hockey: When you are kissing someone so fiercely, it could be a competitive sport. Top: The inserting sexual partner; also known as ‘someone who likes to put it in’. Twink: A younger, smoother, cockier gay man. Vanilla: Someone who likes his sex just like he likes his family values, traditional. Versatile: A gay man who likes it both ways, but is secretly a bottom. Wolf: A hairy gay man who’s neither a Bear nor an Otter but floats somewhere in between. Also, may not howl at the moon if you ask him too. Yestergay: A gay man who now refers to himself as straight. But is not. Illustration courtesy Amrai Dua