Editor's Note: Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) affects one out of four women in India, and is one of the most common endocrinal disorders reported in women of reproductive age today, the world over. It is a complex condition that affects the metabolic, reproductive and hormonal systems of those suffering from it. PCOS patients are at an increased risk for diabetes, heart disease, obesity, depression, infertility and various cancers. Although mainstream media attention on PCOS has been increasing in India, the various complexities of the syndrome are often neglected in reportage (and treatment) that mostly focuses on infertility as the main problem. This three-part series beginning on 8 March, International Women's Day, draws attention to the condition and the experiences that come with it — it is framed as a literary narrative, with well known writerly/literary figures as its dramatis personae.
It had been well over twenty minutes that her friend, Veda, had been in the doctor’s office now. Only a day ago, the two had been enjoying their Delhi vacation, out photographing one of the various baolis the city hid in plain sight, when Veda collapsed onto the steps. Nancy had rushed to arrest her fall, but by the time she reacted, Veda was already steeling herself. “Don’t worry, don’t worry”, Veda had said, “this happens sometimes. I just need to eat something I think”. They had waited until Veda felt a little better, before calling a cab and heading home. If only she had her convertible here, Nancy thought to herself, she would have rushed Veda directly to the Emergency Room (ER), no questions asked. As heat emanating from the cab's seat cover made her thighs sweaty, Nancy turned to Veda.
“Are you sure we shouldn’t rush you to the ER?”
“Yeah, yeah don’t worry about it. I feel much better already. I just need to head home and eat or drink something properly.”
After being home for almost half a day, Veda still felt giddy and uncomfortable. She seemed inexplicably resistant to seeing a doctor, Nancy eventually convinced Veda to drop-in at the family doctor’s clinic the next day. Nancy hadn’t known Veda to be sick, ever. Ever since they met, almost eight years ago, as twenty-year-olds, at a classical music concert (Veda was playing) in New York, Nancy had never known Veda to be sick, let alone drop her guard and admit to feeling sick. As she sat waiting for Veda to emerge from the doctor’s office, Nancy guessed that this must have been something Veda had dealt with for a while.
She understood why, though. Only a couple of years ago, during a conversation, Veda had talked about identifying as non-binary person. They both discussed what that had meant to Veda, and if it was something that should necessarily be shared with everyone and Veda had decided then to decide as and when.
“It’s too much to correct everyone ya, and be like ‘actually, I don’t really identify as a woman’ when they refer to me with certain pronouns”, Veda had said then. “It’s not the battle I’m choosing to pick at this point right now in my life. It’s enough for me to know, and for the people I care about to know.”
They never revisited the topic explicitly after that, except the once that Nancy had asked Veda, out of complete exasperation “Okay, so if you don’t identify as a woman, what are you?” As she watched the clock swing to thirty-six, Nancy cringed. Ah! Young Nancy, was being an unaware and well-meaning as*****e. Nancy had known her best friend to be an active feminist, without necessarily being “feminine”. Back in River Heights, her other best friend George had been a lot like Veda, and Nancy assumed that this was like that. That this was some kind of a 'tomboy-ism' that extended into adulthood. What’s the point of not identifying this way or that? Hadn’t George maintained that she very much identified as a woman, but that she just didn’t care for the narrow diktats of performing “femininity”? How was this not like that, Nancy had assumed back then.
Veda thankfully addressed the question with a lot of patience and stern detachment (Nancy could now identify this as a defense-mechanism), and Nancy still remembered what Veda had said, “I don’t know, and that doesn’t matter to me as much as the clarity of the fact that I don’t connect with feeling either like a woman or a man. And that’s all that should matter to you”. That was all that had mattered since (on that subject).
So Nancy understood that Veda’s resistance was not only her general distrust of medicine and doctors but also the wariness of meeting medical professionals who would constantly invoke her as a female to tailor their conversation and behavior. As the clock struck two-forty, Veda stepped out of the office. They walked out of the hospital and towards the parking lot in silence.