London: Finding it tough to cope with modern life? All you need is the presence of five friends: An agony aunt, an emotional support, someone good with money, a practical person and a colleague you can seek advice from.
The research by Nationwide Building Society in UK shows a minimum of five friends and colleagues are now required to share out our problems and get useful advice from.
Researchers rated 'an agony aunt' figure who you can tell your problems to, followed by a 'loved one' who will put an arm around you and provide emotional support, the Daily Mail reported.
The third most in demand is 'someone to help you out with financial matters' and advise you how to save money. And fourth is a 'knowledgeable friend' or family member you can turn to for advice on life's practical matters. The fifth most important is 'a colleague' you can look to for help and advice in the workplace.
However, the research found that despite the average Facebook user having 190 friends, 32 percent of Brits still don't feel they really have anyone on their side. Men are twice as likely to feel they have no one to turn to (42 percent) in their daily lives as women (23 percent).
The research shows our main needs are for someone to listen to our problems (23 per cent), to provide emotional support (18 percent) and to ease the pressures of everyday life (18 percent).
The study of 1,047 UK adults found one in six people (16 percent) say they need someone to help them save money or get rid of debt. Meanwhile, 15 percent confide in work colleagues and one in 20 (5 percent) look to their boss for help and advice.
The research shows support at work is more important to men, with 11 percent looking for advice in this area compared to just five per cent of women. In contrast, 15 percent of women said they need someone they can turn to for helping them manage family relationships.
"No matter how strong and independent people are, we all need someone to lean on at key stages in life," said Susan Quilliam, a relationship psychologist in UK.
"It could be an ear to listen, a wise head to provide some advice, a shoulder to cry on or someone who is completely removed from the situation you are in," Quilliam said.
First Published On : Jul 23, 2012 15:31 IST