Editor's Note:Video Volunteers, a country-wide community journalism network, is running a series to document instances of patriarchy and gender discrimination in the everyday lives of women across India. Firstpost will reproduce select stories in arrangement with Video Volunteers. Read V Geetha, feminist activist, author and social historian's introductory essay, for this series, on the virulence of daily patriarchy in India.
Every morning Mukesh Devi wakes up at 5 am to finish her household chores before she heads out for work. Since her husband fell ill a few years back, she has taken over the family business in Rohtak, Haryana. One might be tempted to think that she’s just another urban Indian woman juggling her job and her family life. But as the sole breadwinner of her family, Mukesh Devi has broken gender stereotypes when she took up the work of a motorcycle mechanic.
From honour killings and violence against women to high numbers of illegal sex-selective abortions, Haryana is arguably one of the worst faring states on parameters of gender inequality. Sample these few examples: The 2011 National Census reported Haryana as having one of the worst sex ratios in the country, the median age of marriage among women in the state is well below 18. Besides this, only last month, nearly 80 female high school students made headlines after they were compelled to fast to draw the attention of authorities to their problems. The girls had to sit on a protest when the authorities took no notice of their repeated complaints regarding the street sexual harassment that they faced on their way to school.
“Some people stop and say ‘Look a lady is fixing a flat tyre!’
Set against this backdrop Mukesh Devi’s achievement is certainly noteworthy. She has set an example by taking on a job that requires, what is seen as, an exclusively male skill, in a man's world. And she has done this in Rohtak where activists report it is unsafe for single women to be out in the public after six in the evening.
When community correspondent Reena Devi asks Devi what she would have been had she not been a mechanic, she responds with a smile “I would have been a homemaker, what else?” Given the social reality that cannot imagine women in anything but their domestic and reproductive roles, Mukesh Devi’s presence on the road, fixing punctures and changing tyres, causes quite a stir in her hometown.
“Some people stop and say ‘Look a lady is fixing a flat tyre!’ An old man came up to me the other day and asked me why I was doing this. He thought I was fixing my own vehicle. I told him this is my job. He stood up and saluted me!” she laughs.
“Women are no less than anyone today. We can do whatever we want to be it business or service,” Devi asserts. She certainly enjoys her economic freedom and the decision making powers that come with the job. And also the respect she commands for doing ‘a man’s job.’
“It feels great when even accomplished people appreciate what I am doing,” she says. She has been invited to official programmes by the likes of the local Superintendent of Police, Pushpa Khatri.
"An old man came up to me the other day and asked me why I was doing this. He thought I was fixing my own vehicle. I told him this is my job. He stood up and saluted me!” she laughs.
But the sad truth is that it is nowhere close to an equal playing field. Despite her back breaking day job, she is expected to cook and feed her family before going to work — something that certainly was not expected of her husband when he was physically able to do the same job. Moreover, why is it that men are not lauded for doing women’s work? Patriarchy inherently values men’s work more than that of women. While it takes nothing away from Devi’s extraordinary story of determination and grit in a hostile milieu, it is sobering to reflect on the persistence of everyday inequalities that we internalise through patriarchal values in our lives.
Published Date: Jul 04, 2017 17:23 PM | Updated Date: Jul 04, 2017 17:23 PM