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Arjun Rampal has won a National Film Award. He’s played the hero and the villain and had his share of flops and hits. He’s been a producer and a model, and has some of the best abs in the business. He’s married to the gorgeous Mehr Jessia. But somehow he’s managed to remain quite private. His sister Komal Rampal, 1994 Miss India finalist, ex-air hostess, spa consultant talks about the elusive Arjun Rampal.
He is, by 364 days exactly. He was born on 26 November 1972, I was born on 25th November, 1973. He says that I was God’s gift to him for his first birthday.
So you were close?
Thick as thieves. There was no sibling rivalry, we were the best of friends, and ready for any mischief. My mother thought I hero worshipped him, but in fact I was the one who taught him to smoke.
What was your childhood like?
We were small towners. He was born in Jabalpur, and we lived in Deolali. We were a close knit family, just Mom and Dad and the two of us, and being a boy and the elder, he was also very protective of me. But we had plenty of time to be naughty. Our parents even today don’t know how naughty we have been!
Well much of it, I’d rather not tell. But whenever my parents would go off to Pune, we would bunk school and run off. We loved riding wild horses. Of course Mom found out soon enough. But today he is such a good rider because he used to ride wild horses, bareback.
Was it not boring to live in a small town?
I think we had the best of both worlds, especially when we moved to Kodai. Mom was a teacher there, and we would leave together in the mornings, and return together after school. We had the lake outside the school window, and the warmth of our home to return to in the evenings. My father would come home from the factory, there would be music, all of us are music lovers, my parents would dance, and Arjun would go round and round them. I had matching pyjamas with my mom, Arjun and Dad would wear kurta pyjamas...
The imprint of a happy family life in childhood, never leaves one. I think it is why he is such a devoted family man.
What was free time like?
I wish my children could enjoy such freedom, growing up in a city is so restricting. Arjun and I used to climb the hill behind our house; he had an air gun and would shoot pigeons. Or when the farmer’s kids helped us make a swing out of the banyan tree’s roots he would swing on it. More often he would swing holding on to one root and making Tarzan like cries, jump to another swinging root. There were no high-rises of course, so he would pole vault from the roof... he was a daredevil. We broke so many bones: elbow, collar bones, my mother would calmly help it all mend.
Did he have dreams of modelling too?
Actually we had no thought about being good looking. We had been taught to go to school, do your homework, play... do your best and leave the rest to God. He did so well (in school) that we thought he would surely take up law or accounts later.
But modelling happened...
I would never have dreamed it could. You see he looked pretty plain; he had a side parting, his hair stuck to his head, wore glasses, dressed like anyone else from a small town. He neither smoked, no drank, was a man of few words. Nothing of the glamour boy in him!
When he told me, I have signed a modelling contract, it will get me some extra pocket money. I was amazed.
I thought Clark Kent has become Superman!
Was he successful, you think?
You know how it is, sisters and family can’t see it easily. When I joined Cathay, I used to fly in and out of Delhi, and once he took me to a night club. I saw how the boys and girls there looked at him, how they crowded around him, whispered Arjun Rampal to each other... and I said, wow! my brother has arrived!
In fact, Gudda (Rohit Bal, designer) saw him with his Kodai friends somewhere and told Ritu Nanda who was shooting a campaign to use him, and one thing led to another.
Yet he had a side to him that made one feel he was not serious enough about a career.
We always thought he was driven, had fire in his belly. But yes, there were some who felt he was not serious enough. But look, he was 6’2’’, had Adonis looks, was a supermodel, but finally he was 16, a kid! It was natural for him to be laid back. He has always had a tendency to go with the flow.
And films, how did that happen?
Ashok Mehta signed him for Moksh. And he decided to quit modelling. He wanted to break the belief that models can’t act. People generally believed that, thanks to Deepak Malhotra’s debacle as an actor. Arjun said, acting and modelling are completely different mediums, demanding different skills, why muddle the two. And he jumped.
Was that a wise decision?
He went through a tough patch, did a lot of growing up I think. For one, Moksh took five years to be ready, and he had no idea where the film was going, where his career would go at the end of it. Then Rajiv Rai signd him for Pyar, Ishq Mohabbat.